Shownotes
What most people don’t realize about the happiest couples
The difference between narcissistic abuse vs toxicity from trauma
How to never get ghosted again
What exactly relationship repair is and why it’s important
Why repair is an ongoing practice
Four of the most important skills required to repair successfully
Bio
Baya Voce is a relationship repair expert helping couples fight better and make up faster.
She holds an MSW from Columbia University, is in ongoing supervision with Esther Perel and is trained and mentored by Terry Real. Baya’s approach blends therapeutic depth with the practicality of coaching, teaching couples how to break destructive patterns, rebuild trust and come back together.
Baya collaborates with Columbia University, MAPS (Multidisciplinary Association for Psychedelic Studies) and Rick Doblin on pioneering research into MDMA-assisted couples therapy. She also regularly speaks at SXSW, and with over 5 million views, her TEDx talk on loneliness highlights the often-overlooked impact of relational disconnection.
Learn more about Baya’s work on Instagram @bayavoce.
Timestamps
00:00:45 - Guest introduction
00:03:56 - What led Baya to create a career out of relationship repair
00:08:37 - The social shift of perfection in coaching and leadership
00:10:39 - Sign up for Layla’s newsletter at LaylaMartin.com
00:12:01 - What people don’t realize about the happiest couples
00:14:35 - How a virtual world is challenging our human connections
00:19:08 - The difference between narcissistic abuse vs toxicity from trauma
00:22:47 - A question to ask yourself if you think you’re in a manipulative relationship
00:27:20 - Why Baya chooses to stay in her marriage despite the challenges
00:31:14 - Most couples will experience disillusionment in their relationship
00:33:00 - A question to ask yourself to help shift out of victimization
00:33:47 - Discover the VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification
00:39:29 - The end of a partner’s capacity teaches you how strong you are
00:45:51 - How to never get ghosted again
00:50:57 - Explore the magic of MOOD SEX MAGIC™ Elixir
00:55:23 - Baya explains the third pole of a relationship
01:01:50 - What exactly relationship repair is and why it’s important
01:04:29 - The difference between perception and perspective
01:12:58 - Why repair is an ongoing practice
01:15:17 - Enhance your sensitivity and pleasure inside Crystal Pleasure
01:18:30 - Four of the most important skills required to repair
01:28:49 - Conclusion