Show Notes
Take your business to the next level with my VITA™ Coaching Checklist
The difference between objective truth vs. your truth (a.k.a. how to stop arguing with your own assumptions)
A practical script for conflict that doesn't melt into blame soup
The Five A's of Requests (Ask, Acknowledgement, Apology, Action, Agreements)
How to repair trust and build integrity like it's a daily gym routine
Why "Do you want to be heard, helped, or held?" is the relationship cheat code
Men's work, shame alchemy, and the real work of becoming who you say you are
Bio
Andrew Horn is an entrepreneur, writer, and relational leadership coach whom Forbes calls "Dale Carnegie for the digital age." He grew his last company, Tribute, to eight figures in revenue and millions of users, landing on the Inc. 500, before stepping away to focus on coaching and transformation. He also co-founded Junto, a community for leaders to explore men's work and personal growth. Andrew has shared his insights on global stages including Conscious Capitalism, Summit Series, and Google Talks, and coaches founders and executives from some of today's most innovative companies, including Hinge, Casper, and Everyday Dose.
Learn more about Andrew's work on his website, at Junto, and follow him on Instagram @itsandrewhorn
00:00 Truth hits like electricity: authenticity, curiosity, presence
01:01 Meet Andrew Horn and why "being right" is overrated
03:03 The Burning Man suitcase origin story
04:00 Take your business to the next level with my VITA™ Coaching Checklist
05:31 "I love the sh*t out of you" - friendship, on record
08:07 Bad communication = hyperbolic criticism (why "never/always" backfires)
09:41 Learning to meet fire with skill (Non Violent Communication, ownership, objectivity)
10:56 Gestalt wake-up: three pillars to speak from your spine
13:40 The eye-contact exercise that turned truth into lightning
15:02 Coffee-machine confession: when honesty cracks reality open
16:09 Matrix moment: you don't meet people, you meet your story about them
19:16 Layla's jungle-cult nights and the psychedelic power of saying the uncomfortable thing
25:02 Choosing aliveness over being liked
27:49 Objective > subjective: the foundation of clean communication
31:16 Feelings at work and the "clear ask" example
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34:02 Curiosity as the antidote to mind-reading
39:46 Byron Katie and "everyone makes sense to themselves"
43:49 Boundaried vs. boundaryless and the sacred pause
47:45 "Violent" (charged) communication vs. objective language
51:10 Needs-based consciousness (OFNER) - a map out of reactivity
52:26 The Five A's of requests: Ask, Acknowledgement, Apology, Action, Agreements
58:24 Why agreements beat "good intentions" every time
1:00:55 Rituals that keep love alive: weekly check-ins & love dates
1:01:12 "Therapy speak" complaints - the pragmatic reframe
1:02:40 Integrity = knowing yourself, speaking the truth, and keeping agreements
1:06:37 Rebuilding integrity after breaches: deconditioning and working with shame