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Sep 19
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Fearful Avoidant Talks About Self-Sabota...

Annalisa Bahadur
About this episode

Sarah (name changed) has been a relationship with a fearful avoidant for almost a year. All was going well until it got rocky. She now wants to try again but with some boundaries in place. 

Sarah and I sat down recently to discuss how it could look going forward for her and her partner.

Sarah agreed to have this session recorded and aired for the benefit of everyone listening. 

Remember, as humans, our views and needs differ. Take what you believe would be helpful for your situation and leave what doesn’t. 


Love, 

Annalisa

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