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Dec 2024
38m 20s

My Husband Won’t Touch Me: 10 Years of N...

Violet Benson
About this episode

Ever felt like fear was running the show? In today's episode, I start by sharing my personal journey of how I went from eating lunch alone in the school bathroom to overcoming social anxiety. This pep talk is exactly what you needed to hear at this exact moment. You're welcome.


Then, I answer calls from YOU my besties!!! We discuss:


  1. Is he the one or are you settling? Learn how to identify patterns and know when to walk away.
  2. Recovering after betrayal/cheating: What I learned from being cheated on, and what NOT to do in your next relationship. 
  3. A decade without sex—should she stay or go? I give therapy advice on what language to use to reignite her connection or to find the closure she needs. 


Your story deserves to be heard! Call me at (310) 439-8019 to share your questions, struggles, or just spill some juicy tea! Subscribe now for new episodes every Thursday. Let’s dive in and start thriving—together

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