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Sep 15
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Why Your Ex May Or May Not Respond To Yo...

Annalisa Bahadur
About this episode

You hit send. You see the “Delivered” tick turn to “Read.” And then... nothing. The silence is louder than any notification. Your mind starts racing: Are they hurt? Are they ignoring me? Did my message come on too strong? Was it the wrong emoji?

Before you spiral into that abyss of overthinking, we want you to hit pause. The reason for that silent phone likely has very little to do with you, and everything to do with their internal wiring- their attachment style.

In this episode of Decoding Attachment Style, we're applying the science of human connection to one of the most common and anxiety-inducing modern dilemmas: the unanswered text to an ex. We're moving beyond playing games and making guesses, and giving you a practical framework to understand the silence.

We’ll break down exactly how the four attachment styles - Anxious, Dismissive Avoidant, Fearful Avoidant, and Secure - typically process and respond (or not respond) to communication from a past partner. You’ll learn…

  • Why your Dismissive Avoidant ex might see your text as a pressure cooker of expectations and need to flee.
  • How your Anxious ex could be overanalyzing every syllable, desperate to reply but terrified of getting it wrong.
  • The reasons a Secure ex might respond with kindness and clarity, but not the reconciliation you hope for.
  • What it means when a Dearful Avoidant (Disorganized) ex’s response is hot, cold, and completely confusing.

Stop decoding their messages and start decoding their behavior. This episode will give you the clarity you need to stop staring at your screen and start moving forward.

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