Sep 2025
44m 42s
Welcome to Episode 455 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to be joined by Dr. Elisabeth Sheff who speaks to me about consensual non-monogamy, polyamory, and soloamory.
In this episode, Dr. Eli shares her personal journey navigating relationships with both monogamous and polyamorous partners, and how those experiences shaped her professional research. We talk in-depth about "soloamory" which refers to prioritizing one's relationship with themselves, often in the form of self-love. It is a form of autosexuality/autoromance and a conscious choice to live a single life, valuing autonomy and personal growth over traditional relationship milestones like marriage or cohabitation.
Dr. Elisabeth “Eli” Sheff is a researcher, expert witness, coach, speaker, and educational consultant. With a PhD in Sociology and certification as a Sexuality Educator from AASECT, Dr. Eli specializes in gender and sexual minority families, consensual non-monogamy, and kink/BDSM. Sheff is the foremost academic expert on polyamorous families with children, and her 25+ year Polyamorous Family Study is the only longitudinal study of poly families with children to date.
In this episode, you will hear:
· Defining Consensual Non-Monogamy
· Understanding Polyamory And Soloamory
· How Early Relationships Shape Our Beliefs
· Mono-Poly Relationship Dynamics
· Distinguishing Between Jealousy And Insecurity
· Why Some People Are Wired For Multiplicity
· The Role Of Autonomy In Healthy Relationships
· Healing Through Solo Amory And Self-Love
· The Importance Of Therapy And The Right Therapist Fit
· Resources And Tools From Dr. Elizabeth Sheff
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