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Sep 8
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When Life Feels Out of Control: How I Di...

Lisa A. Romano
About this episode

Does your life feel out of control? Do you find yourself feeling stuck, angry, and resentful, and no matter how hard you try to be nice, or kind, or considerate, you only end up feeling worse? Dear One, that is no accident, as you will learn in this incredible breakthrough episode podcast. 

Before Lisa A. Romano was diagnosed with codependency, she lived her life prioritizing others' needs, unaware that her lack of self-awareness, her inability to put herself first, or even to have her needs recognized, was rooted in trauma and missing information. Once Lisa was diagnosed with codependency and learned from an intuitive therapist that she was the adult child of unrecovered adult children of alcoholics, and possibly even dry alcoholics, the wheels in her mind started to turn.

From there, Lisa hit the books and the ground running, consuming every book and mentor she could to help her unwind her mind from self-loathing, hypervigilance, negative self-talk, insecurity, and deep feelings of shame and inadequacy. By adding new data into her data bank of self-understanding, through a ferocious and tenacious will, slowly Lisa's entire inner self-perception began to shift, and like a Rubik's cube, her life started reorganizing itself. 

Lisa A. Romano is the first to tell you that healing is ugly, terrifying, and lonesome, and she will also ask that you accept the quest despite this, because it is the only way to break through the thick matrix caused by generational trauma. If you are the adult child of an alcoholic, or if you were raised by toxic, narcissistic, wounded, immature, or codependent parents, or if you grew up in what seemed like a normal family but felt emotionally neglected, this podcast episode will resonate with you. 

This episode is a must-listen if you:

  • Grew up with a parent who struggle with alcoholic parents.

  • You are the grandchild of an alcoholic.

  • You feel stuck, angry and like your life is out of control.

  • Ache to understand yourself, and how your subconsicous mind controls your emotions, reactions, thinking, and your expectation all outside of conscious awareness. 

✨ Pro tip: Understanding how your childhood has impacted how you 'think' today, how you 'react', and what you expect to occur in your life is you activating metacognition. Childhood trauma resides at the subconscious. Lisa's methods help you breakthrough!

Begin Your Healing Journey:

Lisa introduces her signature 12 Week Breakthrough Method—a trauma-informed, psychologist approaved, neuroscience-based coaching program designed for adult children of narcissistic, neglectful, or emotionally immature parents.

Inside the program, you'll discover:

  • Brain retraining techniques rooted in neuroscience.

  • Inner child healing and self-concept reorganization.

  • Journaling prompts and assessments to increase self-awareness.

  • Tools to stop subconscious self-abandonment and live authentically.

  • How to integrate shadow work and break toxic generational patterns.

Thousands have transformed their lives with this method—learning to step out of survival mode and into authentic, empowered living.

👉 Learn more: https://www.lisaaromano.com/12-wbcp

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