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Sep 7
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149 - Three Simple Steps To Control Your...

Alastair Duhs
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For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

Have you ever promised yourself you'd stay calm—only to find anger rising before you even realised it? In this episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs shares three powerful, easy-to-apply steps that will help you recognise, defuse and communicate through anger before it takes control.

If you're tired of the regret that follows angry outbursts, these practical tools can help you shift from reaction to intention, and start creating more peaceful moments in your relationships.

Key Takeaways:

-Anger often builds slowly—learning to recognise the early warning signs gives you time to respond instead of react.

-Your thoughts fuel your emotions; changing your self-talk helps reduce anger and increase perspective.

-Clear, respectful communication is key to resolving tension and building deeper trust in relationships.

-Expressing feelings with calm honesty can open the door to connection instead of conflict.

-These three steps—awareness, reframing and communication—can be practiced daily and lead to lasting emotional change.

Links referenced in this episode:

angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger management

angersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Control Your Anger in 7 Days

angersecrets.com/course — Enrol in The Complete Anger Management System

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