169 - Is Your Anger Healthy or Harmful?

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Is anger always a bad thing? Or are there times when feeling angry actually makes sense?

In this episode of The Anger Secrets Podcast, anger expert Alastair Duhs explains why anger itself isn’t the problem. The real damage happens when anger is either suppressed or expressed in ways that hurt relationships.

You’ll learn what healthy anger really looks like, how it differs from destructive anger and how to express anger in a way that protects trust, communication and emotional safety.

What you’ll learn in this episode

1. Why anger is a normal and necessary human emotion
2. The difference between healthy, assertive anger and destructive anger
3. How unhealthy anger damages trust and connection over time
4. Real-life examples of responding to anger at work and in relationships
5. Practical ways to express anger calmly, clearly, and respectfully

Key principles of healthy anger:

1. Healthy anger is expressed, not suppressed
2. It is assertive, not aggressive
3. It focuses on solutions rather than blame
4. It respects both your needs and the needs of others

Practical tips covered:

1. Pause before reacting and reflect on what’s really going on
2. Use “I” statements instead of blame or accusation
3. Focus on problem-solving rather than winning
4. Set clear, respectful boundaries
5. Practice forgiveness to avoid carrying resentment

Want help applying this?

If you’d like support learning how to express anger in healthier ways:

1. Watch the free training on breaking the anger cycle
2. Book a free 30-minute Anger Assessment Call
3. Learn more about The Complete Anger Management System

Visit angersecrets.com to get started.

Anger doesn’t need to be eliminated. It needs to be understood and used wisely.

And remember:

You can’t control other people, but you can control yourself.