From sex myths to second chances, safe choices to stuck seasons - John and Vanessa answer real listener questions from bed. You’ll hear why gendered scripts about sex don’t serve us, what really matters before getting back with an ex, how to choose the “risky” path without regret, and why feeling unmotivated can be a necessary pause - not a personal failure. ... Show More
Yesterday
What if you got the life you wanted and still feel disconnected?
We were handed a blueprint for what a “good life” is supposed to look like: fall in love, get married, buy the house, have kids, build a career, and stay together. But what happens when you achieve the life you were supposed to want and realize it doesn’t actually feel like yours ... Show More
30m 13s
Oct 5
What if the person you love isn’t the person you fell in love with anymore?
Being in love and loving someone aren’t always the same thing. Being in love can be about chemistry, longing, fantasy, desire, and the way someone makes you feel. But loving someone asks something harder: can you keep seeing who they actually are as they change? Can you stay curi ... Show More
25m 52s
Sep 30
Grow Together or Grow Apart with Bryan Reeves
What happens when one person is willing to grow and the other isn’t, why growth should be an invitation rather than an ultimatum, and why sometimes the most important thing your partner needs from you isn’t perfection — it’s your willingness to lean in. In this episode, I sit dow ... Show More
55m 24s
Aug 2024
The Orgasm Gap, Anger Management, and Should We Break Up?
<p>Today, John and Shaun talk about their recent retreat experiences, celebrity man crushes, and their first blowjobs. They also answer and give advice on two listeners' questions: Is it a woman's responsibility to ask the man she's dating to go down on her, and how d ... Show More
1h 13m
Aug 2024
Erectile Dysfunction, Bad Friends, and Men with Depression
<p>Today, John and Shaun discuss emotional safety in the bedroom, erectile dysfunction, and compromise in friendships. They also answer and give advice on two listeners' questions: what's the best way to be vulnerable with your partner so they don't use it against you ... Show More
1h 8m
Sep 2024
Modern Dating, Nude Beaches, and Can I Kiss You?
<p>Today, John and Shaun talk about nudity, dating without relying on technology, verbal consent, and ghosting. They also answer and give advice on two listeners' questions: will men lose interest in women if they want to be friends with benefits but without penetration, and ... Show More
1h 5m
Oct 2024
Male Sexuality, Leaving Your Marriage, and Gen Z
<p>Today, John and Shaun talk about fear, negative feedback from listeners, asking for what you need, and male body and bedroom insecurities. They also answer and give advice on two listeners' questions: how do you get the courage to leave a marriage, and how do you deal with jea ... Show More
1h 8m
Aug 2024
Vasectomies, Sex Toys, and Should Women Ask Men Out?
<p>Today, John and Shaun discuss how they handle criticism on social media, men getting vasectomies, using sex toys in the bedroom, and hall passes for celebrity crushes. They also answer a listener's question and give advice about whether women should wait for men to chase t ... Show More
1 h
Jul 2024
Manopause, How To Flirt, and My BF Steals My Panties
<p>Today, Shaun and John discuss hairstyle insecurities, aging, and the ethics of keeping exes' nudes. They bring on two live caller's and give advice on how to bring more flirty energy into your life, and what to do about a boyfriend's panty kink.</p>
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56m 14s