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Sep 2
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413: The 5 Ways You're Quietly Betraying...

Transformational Teacher and National Best-Selling Author
About this episode

"You cannot fully love yourself while quietly betraying yourself."

In this episode of Soul Talk I dive into a hard truth that most of us are not ready to hear: not all betrayal comes from others. Some of the deepest wounds and pain you carry, you did to yourself.

If you've been feeling stuck, hitting the same wall of self-doubt, fear, or sabotage on repeat, or exhausted from pretending, this episode is for you.

You are going to dive into the five ways you may have been unconsciously betraying yourself and you will be offered a powerful formula to help you identify, confront, and heal these self-betrayals.

 Prepare to align your mind, energy, and actions with your authentic self, reclaim your power, and start living a life of freedom and possibility that you are meant for.

 

Timestamps:

[01:00] Welcome to Soul Talk: Understanding the depth of self-betrayal and the episode's purpose.

[04:15] Self-Betrayal #1: Saying 'Yes' When Your Soul is Screaming 'No' – Abandoning yourself for the illusion of peace.

[08:30] Self-Betrayal #2: The Silence That Costs Your Truth and Peace – Staying silent to keep others comfortable.

[13:45] Self-Betrayal #3: Settling Disguised as Gratitude – Using spiritual bypass to justify not asking for more.

[18:10] Self-Betrayal #4: Shrinking Your Light for Others' Comfort – Toning yourself down to make others feel safe.

[22:50] Self-Betrayal #5: Avoiding Your Truth in the Name of 'Love' – Confusing love with codependency and fear.

 

Some Questions I Ask:

• "Why do you feel so disconnected from yourself?"

• "Where have you confused settling with being spiritual?"

• "Where are you shrinking your light? Where are you dimming your light?"

• "Where are you betraying yourself to keep someone/something alive that no longer aligns with who you are?"

 

In This Episode You Will Learn:

• How to identify and confront the five deep forms of self-betrayal that may be holding you back from living fully.

• The practice of pausing before responding to check in with your body and ensure your decisions align with your truth and purpose.

• The power of speaking your truth and why silence, when it costs you your integrity and peace, is a slow death.

• To distinguish between authentic gratitude and settling disguised as spirituality, which traps you in mediocrity and silences your authentic desires.

• The importance of embracing your magnificence and stopping the act of shrinking your light for the comfort of others.

• The crucial difference between true love and codependency, and how to avoid betraying yourself in the name of love.

• That the most sacred relationship you will ever have is with your own self, your own soul, and how this foundation impacts all other relationships.

 

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