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Aug 19
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210. The Spiritual Awakening of Highly S...

Alissa Boyer
About this episode

In this episode, Alissa opens up about her personal journey with external validation and how her identity became tethered to achievements, praise, and being the “star employee.” After experiencing burnout, illness, and a toxic work environment, she shares how it all became a spiritual wake-up call to look within.

Whether you’re a high achiever, people pleaser, or someone who finds worth in how others see you, this episode invites you to explore the deeper spiritual roots of validation. Alissa introduces the idea that repeated triggers are not punishments but divine invitations to heal old wounds, shed false identities, and build true self-worth from within.

She also shares a powerful four-step process to begin detaching from the need for external validation and offers a sneak peek into her new course, The External Validation Cleanse, (with an optional business add-on for sensitive entrepreneurs!)

In this episode we coverered:

  • How external validation becomes a false source of identity and safety
  • The emotional and physical toll of chasing approval
  • Why achievements and praise can never truly fill the inner void
  • The spiritual significance of being triggered
  • Releasing the need to be seen as “impressive”


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As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)!

All you have to do is:

  • Leave a review of this podcast
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