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Jan 2025
8m 11s

Rage, People Pleasing and Food

HARRIET FREW
About this episode

If you have an eating disorder, you’re probably sensitive and hugely empathic. You’re the wonderful caretaker and often the listener in conversations. When you’re not isolating yourself, you know the minutiae of your friends’ lives and have been a sounding board for many difficult conversations. Sometimes, you may feel that your personality is multi-faceted. You’re fantastic at screening the person in front of you and then adapting to meet their needs.

You can be: - The listener. The enthusiast. The quieter one.

You flex and switch adeptly to your environment, to create harmony and avoid tension.People probably like you. A lot. You’re reliable, friendly, non-abrasive, positive. You probably don’t feel very likeable though. Deep down in your core, relationships may feel unsafe, and it can be hard to trust others.

So, you work even harder to be the person that they need you to be.

You’re a people pleaser.

If you struggle with people pleasing and using food to manage frustrations, anxiety and guilt around this, then this episode is for you. I hope that you find it helpful.

 

Harriet's Substack: https://substack.com/@theeatingdisordertherapist

 

Harriet Frew's current offers: -

Online 10 Steps to Intuitive Eating Course https://www.theeatingdisordertherapist.co.uk/online-courses.html

Online Breaking Free from Bulimia 

https://www.theeatingdisordertherapist.co.uk/bulimia-nervosa-online-course.html

Eating Disorders Training for Professionals

https://www.theeatingdisordertherapist.co.uk/eating-disorders-training-with-harriet-frew.html

Body Image Training for Professionals

https://www.theeatingdisordertherapist.co.uk/body-image-training-with-harriet-frew.html

 
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