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Aug 6
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Divorced, Naked, and Not Ashamed ft. Rac...

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About this episode

This week, Good Moms are joined by attorney, media personality, author, and the first Black Bachelorette, Rachel Lindsay. From growing up in Texas with a federal judge for a dad to navigating heartbreak, law school, and the search for "love" on reality TV, they get into love, loss, legacy and what she wishes more reality stars knew.

You can expect to hear: 

(09:00) Growing up in a strict, achievement-focused Black family—and how being a judge’s daughter shaped her mindset

(11:30) Going to law school, pledging Delta, and the moments that made her question everything she thought she knew

(12:30) Her first heartbreak, losing her virginity at 20, and why she believes purity culture is dangerous

(17:50) Her “athlete era,” chasing fun, and realizing what she didn’t want in a relationship

(20:30) How she ended up on The Bachelor, and the gut feeling that told her she had to do it

(23:50) The truth about being the first Black Bachelorette, respectability politics, and how she was chosen to be “palatable” for white audiences

(25:00) Her master plan to stay quiet during filming and speak out after the season aired

(27:00)The power of being seen: why Black women deserve the fairy tale, too ( and why she felt called to bring that to screen)

(28:00) Her advice to future reality TV stars: be strategic and own your narrative

(30:00) Why she’s not rushing into dating post-divorce and how she felt as a woman paying alimony to her EX-HUSBAND to maintain HIS lifestyle.

(31:00) Why she refuses to watch Love Island, and how most dating shows still miss the mark on diversity

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