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Jul 2025
26m 33s

469: Overcoming Codependent Habits

MICHELLE CHALFANT
About this episode

Today, I'm talking about one of my absolute favorite topics…codependency. I've lived this, I've healed from it, and today I'm sharing my personal story of what that journey looked like for me. 

This conversation was inspired by a thoughtful question from one of our listeners who asked how to handle the hurt and pain that can come from our own codependent behaviors in relationships. 

Together, we explore what codependency really is, how it often shows up unconsciously, and why it can be so manipulative without us even realizing it. I'll walk you through five practical steps to begin healing from codependency, including self-awareness, taking ownership, finding your truth, practicing self-care, and setting healthy boundaries.

In this episode, you'll hear:

  • My personal journey with codependency and how I moved through it

  • Why codependency is often unconscious and can feel manipulative

  • Five practical steps to heal from codependency and create healthy change

  • How self-care and boundaries are essential for true healing

Resources from this Episode:

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