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Jul 23
1h 21m

306: Think It’s Love? 5 Signs It’s Obses...

MATTHEW HUSSEY
About this episode

How do you know if it’s love or obsession? What does it mean when you can’t stop thinking about someone who doesn’t return your feelings?

 

In this episode, Matthew, Stephen, and Audrey talk about the phenomenon of limerence, how it can leave you always clinging to hope in dating, and strategies to get yourself out of a one-sided attraction. 

 

Topics include:

 

  • The psychology of limerence and how it arises.

 

  • How we become blinded by obsession and stop seeing the reality in front of our eyes.

 

  • The 2 most dangerous emotions that keep us hooked.

 

  • The difference between limerence and a crush.

 

  • How to escape the trap of obsession and find healthy love. 

 

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  • Join Matthew’s 30-Day Confidence Challenge – MHChallenge.com

  • Try Matthew AI (ask any relationship question) – AskMH.com
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