In this week’s 'Wisdom' episode, we explore the emotional complexity of how ADHD manifests in various nuanced ways in our relationships and family life, and importantly, how we can improve and live better lives with this understanding.
In Chapter 7 of The ADHD Women's Wellbeing Toolkit, I've written about building a life that works for you, and focusing on the things which make you feel more grounded, fulfilled, authentic and purposeful, leading to us feeling happier and more regulated in our realtionships. On today's episode, we revisit poignant conversations with relationship and family dynamic experts Melissa Orlov, a renowned marriage consultant and author and Tamara Rosier, an ADHD coach and author.
🌟 My new book, The ADHD Women's Wellbeing Toolkit, is out now to order here🌟
What You'll Learn:
- The ADHD brain's need for dopamine and how this need for reward can strain relationships
- How genetics and early attachment shape emotional patterns and coping strategies
- How non-ADHD partners can build awareness and avoid walking on eggshells
- The importance of taking responsibility by owning emotional reactions, learning to self-soothe, and making amends
- Why self-management tools like mindfulness, movement, communication cues, and therapy help rebuild trust and connection
- The power of co-regulation: being the steady, calm presence that helps others feel safe
- Tamara’s pool analogy to explain your responsibility in managing emotions
- The emotional dynamic of overfunctioning and underfunctioning in ADHD
Timestamps:
- 04:02 - Navigating Relationships with ADHD
- 10:08 - Understanding ADHD and Emotional Regulation
- 11:35 - The Power of Co-regulation for Supporting Relationships
- 16:43 - Taking Responsibility for Emotions and Personal Growth
- 20:13 - Understanding Emotional Responsibility in Relationships
This episode offers deep insight into what’s really happening beneath the surface in ADHD-affected relationships, along with the hope, responsibility, and practical tools needed to move forward with self-responsibility, greater awareness, compassion, and emotional balance. By taking responsibility for our emotional responses and learning to communicate more effectively, we can create more compassionate and understanding family environments.
Links and Resources:
- Missed our ADHD Women’s Summer Series? Get the Perfectionism and Procrastination workshop [here].
- Order my book: The ADHD Women's Wellbeing Toolkit [here].
- Join the Waitlist for my new ADHD community-first membership launching in September [here].
- Find my popular ADHD webinars and resources on my website [here].
- Follow the podcast on Instagram: @adhd_womenswellbeing_pod