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Jul 15
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How to Stop Sabotaging Your Love Life; L...

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Are your unrealistic expectations the reason you’re still single?
Do you actually want a partner, or just a “perfect” person who doesn’t exist?
Is your dating app profile keeping you single without you even realizing it?
Can you tell the difference between a pet peeve and a dealbreaker?

 

In this episode of A Really Good Cry, Radhi sits down with Logan Ury—behavioral scientist, dating coach, and Director of Relationship Science at Hinge—for an honest, myth-busting conversation on love, dating, and emotional intelligence in the modern world.

 

Together, they unpack the hidden tendencies that quietly sabotage our relationships, the outdated myths we’ve been sold about romance, and why our obsession with “the spark” might be holding us back from something deeper and more real. Logan shares the truth about modern dating apps, how to read digital body language, and what Gen Z is teaching us all about vulnerability and connection.

 

Whether you’re single, dating, or somewhere in the messy middle, this episode is a warm, honest guide to building relationships with more self-awareness, clarity, and compassion.

 

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • How to spot your unconscious dating tendencies
  • Why emotional intelligence is more attractive than the “spark”
  • The difference between a red flag and a personal preference
  • How to write a dating profile that actually reflects who you are
  • What to do on a first date—and what to never ignore
  • The questions to ask yourself before becoming exclusive
  • How to approach dating with curiosity instead of pressure

 

If you’re tired of feeling like love is something to “get right,” you’re not alone. This conversation is a call back to what actually matters: presence, emotional integrity, and connection that’s honest, even when it’s messy.

 

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