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Oct 2023
1h 49m

The Love Expert: Why Women Are Addicted ...

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About this episode

Are we our own worst enemies when it comes to romance? What if instead, we dated like a scientist, using equations and analysis, rather than feelings and attraction to find love.

In this new episode Steven sits down with dating coach and behavioural scientist, Logan Ury.

Logan is a behavioural expert, dating coach and Director of Relationship Science at the dating app, Hinge. She is also the author of the book, ‘How To Not Die Alone’, which outlines the scientific theories she uses with her clients to help them find love.


In this conversation Logan and Steven discuss topics, such as:

  • Why Logan is a dating coach and her work with Hinge
  • How she helps people get out of their own way and find their dating blindspots
  • The ways that modern dating is very new for history
  • Researching the dating habits of Gen Z
  • Hiring a dating coach for herself
  • How Logan found her husband at work
  • Attachment theory and its importance for dating
  • How you can change your attachment style
  • The negativity bias and how our brain runs on ancient software
  • Why you should go for a securely attached person who may seem boring
  • The reasons that securely attached people are the heroes of the dating world
  • Why people are so addicted to f**k boys
  • The importance of taking a break during a fight
  • Understanding our dating patterns and how we can change them
  • The secretary problem and the maths of when to stop looking and choose someone
  • Digital Body Language and how it impacts dating
  • Why people confuse ‘ick’s’ for dealbreakers
  • Why you should overcome your ‘ick’s’
  • The 3 most common dating tendencies and unrealistic expectations
  • Why the dating environment is so important
  • How to date like a scientist
  • Why you shouldn't try to be perfect on a date
  • Vulnerability as a magnet for connection
  • The post date 8 checklist
  • Why you should ignore the spark and focus on the slow burn
  • What things matter less than people think for relationships and what do they underestimate
  • Why you need to be able to fight well in a relationship
  • The tips and tricks to a dating profile
  • why vulnerability is strength
  • The difference between a maximiser and a satisfier
  • Logan’s husbands cancer
  • Living on a commune


You can find out which of the 3 dating tendencies you are with Logan’s quiz, here: https://bit.ly/491O3lj


You can purchase Logan’s book, ‘How to Not Die Alone: The Surprising Science That Will Help You Find Love’, here: https://amzn.to/476uvdV


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Instagram: https://bit.ly/3SddZUL

Twitter: https://bit.ly/46IWMqV


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