Welcome to a series of videos that will introduce you to a simple model of men’s psychology that draws on some of the growing body of research on men.
There’s more than meets the eye with men, just as there is with women. Men are driven at the core by instincts the same as women—masculine instincts.
However, just like women, they have emotions of very similar types and style. The expression is different because emoting is in some part, governed by the instincts.
Finally, the intellect and mature executive functions are also just like those of women (we have identical IQ potential - and “EQ” potential.) Yet the masculine instincts also influence that, and our communication and behavior.
This synthesis of the old and new, the rigorous and the elegant, and most important of all, an attempt at “unification of the psychologies” is the aim of Masculine Psychology, as we start to discuss in this first video.
It’s Masculine Psychology (originally, MMP), which is available in videos delivered one day at a time, for the full 5+ hours of the course (available to paid subscribers only)…
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SHOW NOTES:
In this session, Dr. Paul discusses complex emotional relationships and the distinctions in expressing love and attraction. He opens with the phrase, "I love you, but I'm not in love with you," explaining that it often signifies a lack of sexual attraction tied to factors such as mystery, gentlemanly behavior, resource provision, and passing certain tests or benchmarks.
**Key Points:**
1. **Understanding Relationships**:
- The phrase reflects a spectrum of feelings, where friendship may exist without sexual attraction.
- The absence of sexual attraction can stem from perceived shortcomings in the dynamics of masculinity and femininity.
2. **Masculinity Explained**:
- Dr. Paul presents masculinity as a function of two main components: skill with women and progress in one’s career or passion.
- He links these components to primal survival and reproductive instincts, emphasizing how they play crucial roles in societal and personal identities.
3. **Conflict Between Work and Family**:
- He encourages audience participation on the challenges of balancing career ambitions with family responsibilities.
- A personal anecdote, shared by an audience member, illustrates this tension—where a father chose to prioritize his daughter’s high school experience over a significant job opportunity in China.
4. **Philosophy on Jobs**:
- The speaker touches on the transient nature of jobs and highlights that opportunities can come and go. This reinforces the notion that personal relationships, particularly those with family, often take precedence over career advancements.
Dr. Paul’s presentation encourages introspection on the nuances of attraction, the definition of masculinity, and the importance of prioritizing familial bonds over professional opportunities.