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Dec 2024
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Love, Evolution & The Science Behind Rel...

Lewis Howes
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"When you become a dad for the first time, oxytocin rewires your brain so that you're more into bonding and less into the testosterone competitive stuff." - Dr. Tara Swart

Neuroscientist Dr. Tara Swart reveals how our psychological wounds shape our attraction patterns and relationship choices. Through her research, she explores how evolutionary biology has influenced modern relationship dynamics between men and women. While women's brains are historically wired for seeking stable partnerships due to survival needs dating back to our cave-dwelling ancestors, she reveals fascinating new research showing how fatherhood physically rewires men's brains through oxytocin, shifting them from competition to bonding.

The conversation delves into the fascinating intersection of neuroscience and love, challenging traditional gender stereotypes in relationships. Dr. Swart explains that while evolutionary history has influenced relationship patterns, the core experience of genuine love transcends gender. Her insights illuminate how our brains adapt to modern relationship structures, moving beyond primitive survival instincts to form deeper emotional bonds, suggesting that our capacity for love and connection continues to evolve with our understanding of neuroscience.

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