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Mar 2024
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Depresculinity - Class 2, Lesson 3

Men’s Psychology - the science of being a man
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The conversation describes a rivalry among men that led to a mini-riot. This rivalry centered around a fire, symbolizing personal success or achievement. A group of individuals wanted to disrupt the fire to prevent its original creator from succeeding. However, a few members recognized the injustice and became angry, eventually calming the situation. The incident taught the speakers a valuable lesson about being considered wrong even when they were right, emphasizing the influence of group dynamics. They also discuss the concept of unfinished business, drawing parallels to a person canceling a wedding due to unresolved issues with an ex-partner. The idea extends to career transitions, suggesting unresolved matters can hinder personal growth and stability.

It discusses the concept of unfinished business, using the analogy of a man canceling a wedding due to unresolved issues with an ex-girlfriend. Unfinished business is described as a hindrance to personal growth and development, both in relationships and careers. It is suggested that unresolved matters, such as unresolved father-son dynamics or a lack of initiation, can create a sense of incompleteness that needs to be addressed before moving forward in life.

The author also refers to movies like "Wanted" to illustrate how characters discover hidden truths about their past and experience transformative initiations. The passage concludes with the idea that facing the fear of death, even in the midst of mistakes or failures, is a crucial aspect of initiation ceremonies and personal growth. Additionally, a website is mentioned where readers can find more information on the topic.

In this segment, the discussion revolves around the three parts of the brain: the Reptilian Brain, the Mammalian Brain, and the Higher Brain. The Reptilian Brain is associated with basic instincts and is considered primitive and closely related to masculinity. The Mammalian Brain, which emerged later in evolution, is responsible for emotions, friendships, values, and love. It developed as a means for mammals to form social structures and benefit from hunting and living as a pack.

The evolution of emotions and friendship allowed for stronger social bonds and increased safety for children. The notion of friendship and love are essentially the same, with friendship being consistent, mutual, and involving positive emotions. These bonds foster trust and enable individuals to work together towards common goals. The Mammalian Brain is described as the emotional center of humans.

However, humans have also evolved beyond being just mammals, suggesting the presence of a Higher Brain that sets humans apart and gives rise to higher levels of cognition and consciousness.

The passage discusses the connection between emotions, friendship, and love, emphasizing that friendship and love are essentially the same, except for the sexual component. By evoking positive emotions in someone, a sense of friendship is established. In this context, friendship is viewed as a foundation for trust and collaboration, enabling individuals to work together towards common objectives, such as building fires, hunting, or engaging in conflicts. The evolution of emotions within the mammalian brain is believed to have provided survival benefits, as it fostered social bonds and increased protection for offspring.

However, humans have transcended their mammalian nature due to the development of a cerebral cortex. This advancement has granted humans the ability to think logically, engage in abstract thinking, create art, and possess a sense of self-awareness—qualities that set humans apart from other animals.

The concept of "masculine intelligence" is introduced as the understanding of the different brain structures and their influence on behavior, including the exploration of topics like "depresculinity." By comprehending the interplay between the reptilian brain, mammalian brain, and higher brain, individuals can gain insight into a range of behaviors, including the depressive condition some men may experience.

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