Maybe you are a man, have children, and have been through a divorce that taxed your soul to the point where you weren’t sure anything you have ever dreamt of achieving was worth trying for even another day.
Maybe you are a man and don’t have children, but you’ve been called names like “toxic.” Or have you seen general messages growing in the things you read or watch lump you into this new category of humans.
You didn’t understand where such things originated from because you have worked exceedingly hard all your life to help others, not offend them, and even then, you got very little back for all the effort.
That’sThat'sbecause the point was not to get anything back, but such accusations hurt you deeply even so.
Maybe you are a man who works a very dirty job, doing very dirty tasks that nobody else wants to or dares to, or perhaps you’veyou'veincarcerated—fairly or unfairly—but either way, you have paid the price and thought there may be a chance of starting anew. Still, you find there is no starting anew, even when you have learned tough lessons and changed yourself to the core.
But for what?
Maybe you are a man who has been sad or even depressed—perhaps profoundly so—and you wanted to pull yourself out of it because that’sthat'smen do or try to do.
You tried medicines and therapy to do so, but neither worked, and you hate to admit that some of those times, you felt so down that you looked for ways to end yourself.
You didn’t didn'twant to, but nobody intervened to stop you even though you wanted to be the only one who could stop you.
And if you are reading this, you somehow managed to, at least for now.
You have Depresculinity like countless other men, and you immediately know what the word means.
As we begin an overview of the exciting new technology of Men's PMen'slogy—a new, emerging branch of psychology, let's llet'st the big picture of life for men today and some of the significant challenges they face.
Some of these align with what you may have already experienced as a man. You may have overlooked some of the data we will look at simply due to not having been exposed to such info in mainstream media.
Because women share the planet with this other (almost) half of humanity, we will need to keep in mind the needs, desires, challenges, and ultimately, the feminine instincts of women as they align with, at times and at other times, form a counterpoint to men and their masculine instincts.
The expanding academic research in psychology is suggestive that we do not do enough today for men in terms of help for their emotional, psychological, or spiritual problems, especially in their two deeply felt concerns: finding love and following a career mission.
If we first look at men's mmen'saunting problems as a group, it may benefit us to have data to compare to in our own lives.
Even if your life is going quite well, you will have standards and benchmarks to measure yourself against compared to other men.
This comparison is something that, instinctually, men need so as not to get disorganized or unmotivated for positive change in their lives.
Regardless of how you fare versus other men, the research tends to lead us to the conclusion that the three most impactful areas for personal development in men are:
1 In romantic relationships
2 Career progress (one's "one'so”" for l”fe)
3 In general wellness (which can be both general psychological growth and physical health.)
One of the practical goals of the Depresculinity program and the new field of Men's PMen'slogy is to inform you of the basics of this new body of knowledge. Doing so is intended to help you excel in your romantic life and come closer to discovering your mission as a man. The combination of these two processes we call "mascul”ne intelligence."
Which”leads to general personal growth.
While there are many similarities between men and women, such as IQ and range of emotions being the same, there is an area of the mind in which they are decidedly different - not "unequa”" but w”th your own unconscious, instinctual tendencies.
What we call "mascul”ne instincts" and "“emini”e instincts" cause”men and women to buy very different kinds of products for their instinctual reasons. They even choose very differently among career options and what they like to think about, worry about, or enjoy as entertainment. They take a different approach to finding and keeping love in their lives.
These instincts are why men and women don't sdon'te-to-eye on these items. The instincts are invisible, and now they matter more than ever in this time of conflict.
They are also the driving force behind how men and women are decidedly different in ways when it comes to psychology and behavior.
There'sThere'so learn about men and their psychology, and as you can see, men and women can't lcan'tithout each other, and to find happiness, they must learn to understand each other better.
This program is not intended as medical or behavioral healthcare but rather an educational discussion about understanding men’s pmen'slogy and moods at a deeper level, with insights you may not have been able to verbalize before.
It is free to paid members of the Substack.
Enjoy.