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Stop Being So Hard on Yourself TODAY

Violet Benson
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Why are we so f*cking mean to ourselves?

This week, we’re diving deep into that nonstop voice in your head that tells you you’re not good enough, smart enough, hot enough, just... not enough. You’ll find out why it exists, how it got there, and how to finally shut it the hell up.

We’re talking:

· The real science behind your inner critic (yes, it’s a thing - it’s called the Default Mode Network)

· Why comparing yourself to everyone on the internet is literally frying your brain (hi, Social Comparison Theory)

· How to mentally separate from that toxic inner voice (Cognitive Diffusion, b*tch)

· And how to give yourself the kind of love you’re always chasing from other people (Radical Self-Compassion...look it up, it’s life-changing)

By the end of this, you’re going to understand that being hard on yourself isn’t some personality trait - it’s a survival habit you can unlearn. And we’re doing it together, one savage thought at a time.

This episode is science, sass, and self-respect. Let’s go.


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