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Jul 7
47m 28s

#461 - Do Therapists Give Advice? Why Th...

DR. LISA MARIE BOBBY
About this episode

Have you ever been in the middle of a therapy session and found yourself silently (or loudly 😂) begging for advice from your therapist? You lay it all out — the overthinking, the relationship questions, the confusion… and they smile gently and say, “Hmm... what do you think you should do?” 😵‍💫

This is an all too common occurrence that can result in confusing, frustrating, and disappointing experiences with therapy. So on this episode of the Love, Happiness & Success podcast, we’re going to talk about why your therapist won’t give you advice, what therapists can help you with, and what kind of support will give you the guidance you’re looking for.

Traditional therapy isn’t designed to tell you what to do or how to do it, and if you’re someone who wants clarity, structure, and movement forward… it might be time for a different kind of support. If you’re in therapy and wondering why you still feel stuck, this is an episode you won’t want to miss. 

Timestamps
00:00 – Why therapists don’t give advice (and why that’s intentional)
05:21 – Understanding different types of therapy
15:19 – What coaches do differently (and why it works)
21:52 – How to know what kind of support you need
24:05 – When therapy helps… and when it doesn’t
25:49 – Coaching vs. therapy: what’s right for your goals?
29:44 – Watch out: unqualified “coaches” are everywhere
33:34 – The honest truth about what will actually help you
34:21 – Finding clarity, confidence, and direction
36:38 – Questions to ask before hiring a therapist or coach
45:02 – Feeling stuck in therapy? Say this to your therapist
48:05 – It’s not you, you just need the right support

If you’ve been nodding along while listening to this and thinking, "YES. I need a plan. I need movement. I need someone who gets it", I created Clarity and Confidence Coaching just for you. To meet you where you are right now, help you find clarity for your path forward, and to guide you step-by-step through transformation. 

Right now, you can work with a brilliant therapist trained in coaching psychology for a fraction of what coaching usually costs. You’ll get expert support and a solid framework to actually create meaningful change in your life. And these spots go fast.

👉 Come visit growingself.com/clarity and snag your spot before the cohort fills up.

And hey, if this conversation resonated with you? Come hang out with me on Instagram or YouTube. I share interviews with experts, evidence-based tools that actually work, and lots of free resources to help you create love, happiness and success in your life.

Xoxo
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

P.S. Know someone who’s been stuck in therapy wondering where the heck to go from here? Share this episode with them and support them on their journey.

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