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Jul 3
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3 Questions to Feel Better Fast (Even If...

SEBASTIAAN VAN DER SCHRIER
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In this episode...

Ever felt ignored and instantly spun into overthinking, worry, or self-doubt?

In this minisode, Seb shares 3 powerful self-inquiry questions that help stop that downward spiral, plus how EFT tapping helps you release the emotional charge underneath.

It’s a relatable and practical tool for moments when your brain starts jumping to painful conclusions. These are the exact questions Seb teaches inside the Social Confidence Club to help clients find emotional freedom fast.

🎧 In this snippet:
• How Seb used this in real life when someone didn’t reply to his message
• Why your brain assigns painful meaning to neutral events
• How to use tapping to release that emotional sting

This clip is from the full episode: Stop Feeling Like Sht in Record Time. Listen to the full conversation for more tools and mindset shifts.

🎁 Start now with my free mini-course: The 7 Secrets to Social Confidence
 


 

Do you feel awkward in social situations? Do you struggle to be yourself around others?

And do you fear being judged, being seen anxious, and embarrassing yourself?

You’re not alone.

I’ve been there. It sucks. Big time.

But there’s hope. I’ve been fortunate enough to overcome my Social Anxiety...

... and I’ve helped hundreds of socially anxious clients overcome their struggles too.

Thankfully, there’s a gentle, powerful, and effective solution to beat it.

It won’t happen overnight, but with certain techniques and strategies, you can reduce your Social Anxiety quickly.

And with persistence, you can become completely anxiety-free.

Without needing to force yourself to awkwardly face your fears.

Ready to get started on your journey to Social Confidence?

Here are your first steps:

1.) Follow this Podcast and always get the latest episodes!

2.) Go to https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast and receive access to a short transformational video to reduce your anxiety immediately. AND you’ll also get my FREE “7 Secrets to Social Confidence” Mini Course.

3.) Let’s connect!

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All the best on your journey to effortless social ease.
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Warm regards,
Seb

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