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Aug 15
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242.  When Social Anxiety Gets You Label...

SUSAN CALLENDER
About this episode

Are your coworkers misreading you?


If you’ve ever been labeled “difficult,” “standoffish,” or “arrogant” when you’re actually anxious or nervous, you’re not alone. Many high-achieving professionals with social anxiety unintentionally send signals that others interpret the wrong way—hurting their reputation, relationships, and career opportunities.

In this episode of the Social Skills Mastery Podcast, social confidence coach Susan Callender explains why social anxiety often looks like arrogance in the workplace, the neuroscience behind why your brain reacts this way, and practical steps to show your true personality, even in stressful situations.

You’ll learn:

  • Why social anxiety triggers behaviors that damage first impressions
  • The “translation error” between your intentions and how others see you
  • How protective habits like brief answers, avoiding small talk, or leading with credentials can backfire
  • Four proven strategies to replace anxiety-driven habits with authentic connection
  • A simple 4-week plan to improve your communication and shift workplace perception

Whether you’re in leadership, a technical role, or client-facing position, this episode will help you protect your professional reputation, build stronger relationships, and feel more confident in high-stakes interactions.

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