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Jul 2025
13m 28s

156 - Knowing WHEN to Speak Up

Cat Matson
About this episode

In this episode of Speaking with Confidence, I’m discussing the importance of strategic communication and how to effectively contribute to conversations that matter. 

I’ve been noticing my own ‘desire’ to contribute to ALL THE CONVERSATIONS, but actually, realising I need to focus on my own circle of influence and control, and the value of thoughtful contributions over mere opinions. The episode also touches on the challenges of moral outrage in the digital age, with an invitation to be mindful of your energy and impact.

Listen in to hear:

  • How being more strategic contribution can enhance your influence.

  • Why not every opinion needs to be shared; choose wisely.

  • How moral outrage can detract from meaningful dialogue.

  • Why it’s powerful to focus on areas where you can make a real impact.

  • How you can conserve energy for significant contributions.

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