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Jul 1
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203. A Powerful Shift To Help You STOP R...

Alissa Boyer
About this episode

In this episode, Alissa shares a personal mindset shift that can be a game-changer for highly sensitive people​ focusing on being proud of how you show up, rather than relying on others to validate you. Through real-life stories​ including awkward happy hours to Instagram posts to toddler mealtime critiques​, she explores how to stop chasing external approval and instead ground yourself in self-trust, self-respect, and authentic expression.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • How to recognize when you’re depending on external validation
  • The internal shift that leads to more peace and less overthinking
  • Practical examples of showing up in ways you’re proud of—at work, socially, and in relationships
  • Why being in integrity with yourself matters more than anyone else’s reaction


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