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Jun 2025
9m 45s

How I Stopped Seeing Sensitivity as Weak...

SEBASTIAAN VAN DER SCHRIER
About this episode

In this episode...

If you grew up hearing “don’t be so sensitive” or “man up,” this might forever change how you see yourself.

In this short minisode, Seb and ex-MMA fighter Tom Woodfin get real about what it’s like to grow up hiding your sensitivity—especially in a world that sees it as pathetic or weak.

They share how years of inner work helped them shift that shame, own their sensitivity, and transform it into deep confidence and connection.

🎧 In this minisode:
• Why sensitive people are more prone to shame and social anxiety—and how to heal it
• How society trains us to reject vulnerability (especially in men)
• How owning your true nature boosts emotional resilience and social confidence

🎧 This clip is from the full episode: “Loving Your Sensitivity and Feeling Safe Being Vulnerable.”
Listen to the full conversation here for more tools and insight.

🔗 Ready to reduce your social anxiety? Start with the free mini-course: The 7 Secrets to Social Confidence


 

Do you feel awkward in social situations? Do you struggle to be yourself around others?

And do you fear being judged, being seen anxious, and embarrassing yourself?

You’re not alone.

I’ve been there. It sucks. Big time.

But there’s hope. I’ve been fortunate enough to overcome my Social Anxiety...

... and I’ve helped hundreds of socially anxious clients overcome their struggles too.

Thankfully, there’s a gentle, powerful, and effective solution to beat it.

It won’t happen overnight, but with certain techniques and strategies, you can reduce your Social Anxiety quickly.

And with persistence, you can become completely anxiety-free.

Without needing to force yourself to awkwardly face your fears.

Ready to get started on your journey to Social Confidence?

Here are your first steps:

1.) Follow this Podcast and always get the latest episodes!

2.) Go to https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast and receive access to a short transformational video to reduce your anxiety immediately. AND you’ll also get my FREE “7 Secrets to Social Confidence” Mini Course.

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All the best on your journey to effortless social ease.
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Warm regards,
Seb

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