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309. The psychology of parasocial relati...

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Why do we form intense, one-sided bonds with people we've never met? From favourite podcasters and social media influencers to beloved fictional characters, parasocial relationships are a defining feature of modern life – but what do these seemingly non-reciprocal connections truly reveal about our need for connection? In today’s episode, we explore the psychology of parasocial relationships: why our brains are wired for these intimate-at-a-distance bonds, and how they play a surprisingly significant role, especially in our twenties.

We explore:

  • Characteristics of parasocial relationships
  • Why our ancient brains are predisposed to form these connections
  • The parasocial relationships spectrum, from casual engagement to pathological obsession
  • The profound positive benefits of companionship and role modelling
  • When parasocial relationships become imbalanced
  • How to cultivate healthy engagement with online personalities

 

Whether you feel like you're best friends with a YouTuber or just curious about the invisible ties that bind us to media figures, this episode is for you.

 

Listen to my NEW PODCAST, Mantra: https://open.spotify.com/show/4Ckds0BoJDDpODInN9cWcc?si=b6ad5d555c1940e0 

 

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