Shownotes
Why relational work has the ability to heal things that solo work can’t
How to be fully present with what’s true in the moment
Why deeper inquiry into yourself is at the heart of the spiritual journey
The beautiful thing about disintegration and why it’s so important
Why hiding your power creates disarray
Tom’s top advice for connecting with yourself on a deeper level
Bio
From a young age, Tom Slater sought to learn through direct experience, a path that has taken him across the globe, immersing himself in many traditional and indigenous cultures. His quest to understand himself and the life he was experiencing led him to explore the very nature of his existence, often guiding him down challenging paths, including struggles with addiction and depression.
Through this deep exploration, Tom gradually opened up to a more profound connection with his own humanity, confronting the limitations that prevented him from fully feeling and embracing it. His personal journey has taught him invaluable lessons, enabling him to be present with others in a spontaneous and creative way, facilitating their own process of discovery.
Tom’s work, particularly through The Sapience Retreat, focuses on helping individuals integrate all aspects of their being – mental, emotional, physical, social, and spiritual – in a way that fosters a true sense of homecoming, both within themselves and in connection with others. At the heart of his approach is cultivating an open awareness and a deep sense of choice, empowering people to show up more fully and authentically in life.
Learn more about Tom and The Sapience Retreat on his website.
Timestamps
00:00:54 - Guest introduction
00:05:46 - Tom describes what a “meeting” is in his work
00:09:54 - A meeting can be any flavor of energy
00:13:36 - The heart of this work is to have less and less resistance to what’s happening
00:14:07 - Sign up for Layla’s newsletter at LaylaMartin.com
00:16:59 - Relational work has the ability to heal things that solo work can’t
00:18:44 - The various traps humans get caught in
00:20:19 - Why deeper inquiry into yourself is at the heart of the spiritual journey
00:23:01 - Layla summarizes spiral dynamics
00:26:41 - The beautiful thing about disintegration and why it’s so important
00:29:27 - Discover the VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification
00:31:20 - Layla describes her experience with the beige stage
00:35:10 - Trust and safety only exist in this moment
00:39:51 - The power of unconditional somatic connection
00:40:40 - Layla and Tom drink MOOD SEX MAGIC™
00:43:20 - Layla talks about her “Reclamation in the Red Stage”
00:51:30 - When we hide our power, it can become a force that creates disarray
00:55:23 - Discover MOOD SEX MAGIC
00:58:35 - How to be present with what’s true in the moment
01:01:09 - Layla shares about her entity removal at The Sapience Retreat
01:08:08 - What Tom whispered to Layla’s inner little girl
01:10:55 - Enhance your sensitivity and pleasure inside Crystal Pleasure
01:11:46 - Reach your full pleasure capacity with Men’s Sexual Mastery
01:13:40 - We don’t have to become cosmic starchildren to touch magic
01:17:39 - Just meeting each other as humans is the most advanced thing we can do
01:21:48 - Tom’s top advice for connecting with yourself on a deeper level
01:25:42 - Layla shares about the stuffed animal she used to carry
01:27:46 - Conclusion