"Just because it feels intense does not mean it's love. Sometimes it’s simply your wounds shaking hands."
What if the intense connection you keep chasing… isn’t actually love?
In this powerful episode of SoulTalk, I dive deep into the difference between true, soul-aligned love — and trauma bonding disguised as passion. So many of us have been conditioned to equate emotional chaos with chemistry. But real love? It doesn’t spike your anxiety. It soothes it.
I break down how early wounds shape our patterns in relationships, why we confuse familiarity with fate, and how the nervous system plays a hidden role in who we’re drawn to. I’ll also share personal stories, raw truth, and grounded spiritual insights to help you recognize when you’re stuck in a trauma loop — and how to finally break free.
If you’ve ever asked:
“Why do I keep attracting the same kind of relationship?”
“Why does love feel so exhausting?”
…this episode will give you clarity — and a path to healing.
You’ll learn how to rewire your nervous system, reconnect with your inner child, and feel the difference between drama and devotion. This isn’t about blame. It’s about liberation.
Tune in now and discover what real, healthy, soul-nourishing love actually feels like — and how to stop calling chaos your soulmate.
Timestamps:
- (00:03:36) - Why Intensity Isn’t Always Love.
- (00:06:32) - Nervous System Conditioning: Why We Choose Familiar Pain.
- (00:09:01) - What a Trauma Bond Really Feels Like.
- (00:12:07) - The Truth: Trauma Bond ≠ Love.
- (00:14:10) - Real-Life Story: Kute’s Experience Meeting His Wife.
- (00:16:44) - How to Recognize Real Love. And What it's not.
- (00:20:11) - Reparenting: Healing the Inner Child.
- (00:21:18) - Breaking the Cortisol Loop and Restoring Safety.
- (00:25:39) - When Ordinary Moments Feel Sacred.
Some questions I ask:
- Is the love you feel calming or chaotic?
- Are you truly in love or addicted to feeling wanted?
- How can you tell if you’re stuck in a trauma loop disguised as passion?
- Why does love have to be hard?
- Is your “type” truly your preference or just your nervous system’s conditioning?
In this episode, you will learn about:
- How to recognize the difference between real love and trauma bonding to stop confusing emotional chaos for a soul connection.
- Why intense chemistry isn't always true love and how your nervous system may be drawn to familiar pain.
- The key signs that you're trapped in a trauma loop and how to break free from toxic relationship patterns.
- What secure, grounded love feels like, so you can attract healthy, lasting relationships.
- How to reparent your inner child to heal emotional wounds and stop choosing emotionally unavailable partners.
- Powerful tools to calm your nervous system and create the safety needed to experience real intimacy.
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