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May 2024
19m 25s

#136: Stop Rescuing And Saving People

Gloria Zhang, MA
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Need Help With Breaking Dating/Relationship Patterns? Learn to see if the Soulmate program is right for you by booking a free breakthrough call here. "We tell ourselves that we're doing this for them when it's actually to relieve ourselves of our own guilt of our own discomfort." Do you ever feel responsible when other people struggle and always feel the n ... Show More
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