#136: Stop Rescuing And Saving People

Need Help With Breaking Dating/Relationship Patterns? Learn to see if the Soulmate program is right for you by booking a free breakthrough call here. "We tell ourselves that we're doing this for them when it's actually to relieve ourselves of our own guilt of our own discomfort." Do you ever feel responsible when other people struggle and always feel the n ... Show More

This is your sign!! Besties, I've been so busy dealing with the media attention after publishing my paper, but I haven't had time to "advertise" the beta group properly. It really means a lot, and it's a ridiculously great opportunity for anyone who wants to try inner child heali ... Show More

Is "consciousness" the secret to permanently healing from childhood trauma? Today's episode is an edited version of last week's free Heal Your Inner Child Workshop. With an outpour of positive feedback, this workshop introduced the new groundbreaking "Trauma Entanglement Theory" ... Show More

The answer lies in your "inner world": The part of your reality that exists inside you, that the adults raising you did not fully explore, get curious about, or truly get to know on a deeper emotional level. This episode takes you through the entire concept, and how to heal and a ... Show More

You want to help. It feels noble - maybe even necessary. You’re the one who jumps in, figures it out, and holds it all together. And when someone you love is struggling? You can feel the pull in your chest, like you’re supposed to do something. But here’s the hard truth: sometime ... Show More

Ever catch yourself rushing to fix someone's problems, only to realize maybe that's not what they needed? We all want to help those we care about, but sometimes our well-meaning support misses the mark. In this episode, we explore the delicate balance between being there for othe ... Show More

Sometimes, helping can hurt. When people are struggling, our impulse is to try to pull them back on their feet, when what they really need is for someone to sit beside them and ask, "What do you need? What can I do?" Get in touch: podcast@gretchenrubin.com Visit Gretchen's websit ... Show More

Do you feel like you can fix someone? Maybe helping others is what brings a sense of purpose into your life. We talked about having a savior complex, getting taken advantage of, and how being selfless isn’t always a good thing. Socials: @teenagertherapy Website: teenagertherapy.c ... Show More

How much help is too much? This question hits close to home for many of us. We all want to be there for our friends and family, but there comes a point where we need to step back.  Offering too much help can end up making them dependent on us, preventing them from learning to sta ... Show More

When someone is struggling, it's hard to know how to be helpful. Whether it's a struggling partner, co-worker or friend, this episode will help you show up in a more supportive, empowering way using a couple of simple steps. Be a good listener, without over supporting or taking o ... Show More

Today's episode is more of a pep talk and collection of thoughts I've had recently about how we don't cut ourself enough slack especially when going through something as tough as a breakup. Recovery requires so much compassion and kindness and self love, and I see so many people ... Show More

<p>Are you the kind of person who can’t help yourself from taking on other peoples problems? Even to the point where its harming you? This is the episode for you...</p> <p>Become a friend of the podcast &amp; access exclusive content: <a href="https://www.patreon.com/mindfulnessf ... Show More

Do you ever feel like you’re giving too much in your relationships? In this week’s episode, Matthew, Audrey, and Stephen tackle the exhausting cycle of overgiving and people-pleasing in love. You’ll discover why so many people feel the need to be “perfect” to keep someone around, ... Show More

Do you have any friends who always seem to be surrounded by drama? Sure, we've all encountered people like that. Well, unfortunately, it can be easy to get caught up playing the role of hero or protector - always trying to save them because it makes us feel good. In today's episo ... Show More