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May 2024
19m 25s

#136: Stop Rescuing And Saving People

Gloria Zhang, MA
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"We tell ourselves that we're doing this for them when it's actually to relieve ourselves of our own guilt of our own discomfort."

Do you ever feel responsible when other people struggle and always feel the need to rescue them?

Besties, there's nothing wrong with helping people in need. But you might need to step back for a bit and ask yourself: Am I really helping them or am I robbing them of this experience they need to learn from?

In this episode, I'll tell you why we shouldn't rescue people and what you should be doing instead if you want to make a positive impact in someone's life.

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MENTIONED IN PODCAST:

  1. Subscribe to my YouTube channel and watch this animated episode on YouTube - Comment Hi"! https://www.youtube.com/@bygloriazhang 
  2. Listen to Episode #89: Feeling Guilty and Sorry for People All the Time - Let's Talk Guilt Wounds
  3. Listen to Episode #36: You Are Not a Rehab Center for Broken People
  4. Listen to Episode #62: How To Heal Anxious Attachment in 6 months with Ronalee (Success Story)

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