logo
episode-header-image
Aug 2023
18m 12s

#103: How to Help a Partner Struggling w...

Stephanie Rigg
About this episode

Looking out for someone who you care for that is going through a hard time is a challenge most of us will have to face in our lifetimes. But feelings of threat to the relationship, especially as an anxious attached person may come up in these times, and I want to help you navigate through these while prioritising your wellbeing, and not overstepping.

We'll cover:

  • Monitoring your “fixing” the situation
  • Ways to support someone and yourself
  • How you can be a balanced supportive person
  • Nothing changes, unless something changes.


Highlighted Links

Additional Resources

Up next
Feb 10
#231: Why You Can't Love Someone Into Changing
In this episode, we explore the belief that if someone truly loved you, they would have changed — and why this story so often keeps people stuck in self-blame, rescuing, and self-abandonment. We look at the saviour complex, how it develops, and why real change has far more to do ... Show More
16m 1s
Feb 5
#230: How Do I Know My New Partner Will Be Better Than My Last One? (Ask Steph)
In this Ask Steph episode, I respond to a listener question that will feel very familiar to anyone with anxious attachment: How can I be certain that my new partner will be better for me than my last one?On the surface, this question makes sense. After being hurt, blindsided, or ... Show More
6m 1s
Feb 3
#229: The Hallmarks of a Secure Relationship
A secure relationship isn’t one where nothing ever goes wrong — it’s one where the foundation is strong enough to hold the hard stuff. For many people (especially those with anxious attachment), insecurity doesn’t come from being “too sensitive,” but from being in dynamics that l ... Show More
19m 58s
Recommended Episodes
Jun 2024
How To Deal With Difficult People
<p>Today, we're tackling a big one: how to deal with difficult people in your life and relationships.</p><p>In this episode, we'll cover:</p><p>1. Understanding Difficult People: Learn why people act the way they do, often because of unhealed trauma and learned behaviors, and how ... Show More
18m 50s
Feb 2017
84: Raise Your Low Self-Esteem To Improve Your Relationship
In today's episode we cover relationship topics that include: How to deal with our own, or our partner's, insecure attachment style. What to do if you or your partner has a low self-esteem. How to work on changing your attachment style to a secure attachment. Creating habits as a ... Show More
40m 18s
May 2024
142. [Relationship Series Part 5] How To Stop Feeling So Anxious In Your Relationships
In today's episode, we dive into the topic of inner healing and personal development within relationships, specifically focusing on the anxious overthinker archetype. I talk about my journey of transforming my relationship through self-work and how it positively influenced my hus ... Show More
21m 51s
Apr 2022
Transform Your Relationships by Understanding Your Attachment Style
Knowing your attachment style is the key to finding freedom, connection and support in all of your relationships — including the one you have with yourself. If you’re stuck in old patterns and feel held back from truly satisfying relationships, press play! You’ll learn whether yo ... Show More
34m 14s
Sep 2021
How To Support Your Avoidant Partner
In this episode, I share 5 ways in how you can best support your avoidant partner. We go deep into understanding their attachment traumas, the result of these traumas, and how other attachment types (especially anxious styles) can live more harmoniously with their avoidant partne ... Show More
15m 52s
Sep 2023
BONUS: Navigating Guilt and Self-Sabotage with a BetterHelp Therapist
<p>This podcast is sponsored by BetterHelp. Take your mental and emotional well-being to the next level with BetterHelp. Our listeners can now get 10% off their first month by using the link provided, <a href='https://www.betterhelp.com/sinead'>HERE</a> #ad<br/><br/>In this enlig ... Show More
24m 10s
Feb 2024
Constantly Doubting Yourself Is an Act of Disrespect
tail spinning
10m 26s