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Aug 2023
18m 12s

#103: How to Help a Partner Struggling w...

Stephanie Rigg
About this episode

Looking out for someone who you care for that is going through a hard time is a challenge most of us will have to face in our lifetimes. But feelings of threat to the relationship, especially as an anxious attached person may come up in these times, and I want to help you navigate through these while prioritising your wellbeing, and not overstepping.

We'll cover:

  • Monitoring your “fixing” the situation
  • Ways to support someone and yourself
  • How you can be a balanced supportive person
  • Nothing changes, unless something changes.


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