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Jun 2025
21m 34s

#275 The Power of Rock Bottom

BREAK UP BESTIE
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In today's solo episode, I'm diving into the topic of hitting "rock bottom" after a breakup—what it really means, why it matters, and how it can actually be a catalyst for deep change and healing. I share personal stories and draw some powerful parallels to sobriety and recovery, discussing why so many of us avoid fully feeling the pain after a breakup and the ways we try to distract or numb ourselves to avoid that lowest point. We talk about the importance of allowing yourself to truly be "done," what that looks like (and doesn't look like), and why embracing the pain instead of fighting it can provide the motivation you need to start genuinely healing. If you're struggling to let go, stuck in a cycle with your ex, or afraid of facing the sadness, this episode is here to remind you that rock bottom can be a turning point—and that this, too, shall pass.

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