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Jun 9
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How To Release The Patterns That BLOCK L...

Lewis Howes
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Matthew Hussey, the renowned relationship expert and bestselling author, delivers raw truth about modern love that will shake your dating beliefs to the core. In this deeply personal conversation, Matthew opens up about his own journey from being single and questioned by thousands to finding his wife Audrey at a party he didn't want to attend, revealing the vulnerable moments that nearly sabotaged what became his greatest love story. Matthew exposes why we chase the wrong things and sabotage the right ones, telling powerful stories of past relationships where vulnerability was weaponized against him and current insights on how past wounds destroy promising connections. This episode is essential for anyone stuck in dating patterns, afraid to be vulnerable, or wondering if love will ever find them.

Love Life: How to Raise Your Standards, Find Your Person, and Live Happily (No Matter What)

Get the Guy: Learn Secrets of the Male Mind to Find the Man You Want and the Love You Deserve

In this episode you will learn:

  • Why vulnerability with the wrong person can traumatize you and how to find someone who receives your authenticity with love instead of judgment
  • The hidden reason you sabotage good relationships and chase unavailable people - and how your brain tricks you into thinking rare equals valuable
  • How to break destructive patterns by becoming an experimenter in your own life and getting curious about doing things differently
  • Why being "behind" in love is an illusion and how comparing your timeline to others keeps you stuck in relationship misery
  • The difference between being vulnerable and abdicating responsibility - and how to be a great teammate while still sharing your struggles

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