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Jun 21
27m 57s

You Can’t Change Them—But You Can Outsma...

Kwame Christian Esq., M.A.
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They won’t listen. They won’t budge. And every argument feels like running into a wall. Sound familiar? In this episode, Kwame Christian breaks down exactly how to deal with stubborn people in negotiation—without losing your cool or wasting your time. You’ll learn why trying to “change” them never works, how your own ego might be making things worse, and the ... Show More
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