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Aug 2024
21m 28s

How to Forgive

Therapy in a Nutshell -Emma McAdam
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Forgiveness can be a really challenging subject. On the one hand, forgiving someone can be a powerful path to emotional freedom, but on the other, the word forgiveness is often used in a way that is hurtful or harmful for victims of abuse. In this podcast, I hope to take a nuanced and thoughtful approach to the ways that forgiveness can be helpful for those who have experienced abuse or trauma, but also to really clarify for those encouraging others to forgive how the concept can be misused, mis-timed, or mis-understood.

So let’s talk about what that healing process might look like. And how forgiveness might be a part of that. And if it is, how to forgive.

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Therapy in a Nutshell and the information provided by Emma McAdam are solely intended for informational and entertainment purposes and are not a substitute for advice, diagnosis, or treatment regarding medical or mental health conditions. Although Emma McAdam is a licensed marriage and family therapist, the views expressed on this site or any related content should not be taken for medical or psychiatric advice. Always consult your physician before making any decisions related to your physical or mental health. In therapy I use a combination of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Systems Theory, positive psychology, and a bio-psycho-social approach to treating mental illness and other challenges we all face in life. The ideas from my videos are frequently adapted from multiple sources. Many of them come from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, especially the work of Steven Hayes, Jason Luoma, and Russ Harris. The sections on stress and the mind-body connection derive from the work of Stephen Porges (the Polyvagal theory), Peter Levine (Somatic Experiencing) Francine Shapiro (EMDR), and Bessel Van Der Kolk. I also rely heavily on the work of the Arbinger Institute for my overall understanding of our ability to choose our life's direction.

And deeper than all of that, the Gospel of Jesus Christ orients my personal worldview and sense of security, peace, hope, and love https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/comeuntochrist/believe

If you are in crisis, please contact the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org or 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or your local emergency services.

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