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Jun 2025
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136 - Mastering the Art of Apologising: ...

Alastair Duhs
About this episode

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

In this episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs discusses the importance of a genuine apology and how it can truly heal relationships.

He shares how many people struggle with apologising effectively, often just saying "I'm sorry" without understanding what it really means, and shares seven practical tips to help listeners make their apologies more meaningful.

From acknowledging mistakes to committing to real change, Alastair emphasises that a heartfelt apology can rebuild trust and repair damage. By taking these steps, he believes people can strengthen their connections and move forward in a positive way.

Key Takeaways:

  • A genuine apology can rebuild trust, soften resentment, and even save relationships.
  • It's important to express genuine remorse by acknowledging the pain you caused someone.
  • To apologise effectively, one should avoid excuses and focus on taking full responsibility.
  • Real healing takes time, and patience is key when waiting for forgiveness from others.

Links referenced in this episode:

For more information (and FREE resources) of how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

For a FREE training on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com/training/.

To learn more about The Complete Anger Management System, visit angersecrets.com/course/.

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