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Jun 2023
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Use 'Why, What, How' Technique to Unlock...

JON BROOKS
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"The 'Why, What, How' technique encourages us to understand why someone is behaving a certain way, determine what we want to teach them, and find the best way to deliver the lesson."

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In today's episode, we delve into the concept of discipline and teaching. Drawing inspiration from Stoic philosophy and insights from parenting, we discover the power of the "Why, What, How" technique in building constructive relationships and fostering personal growth.  This episode aims to teach you how to navigate and resolve disagreeable situations from a place of calm, curiosity and centeredness. 

What's included in this episode:

  1. The True Meaning of Discipline: Exploring its origins and debunking misconceptions.
  2. Discipline as Teaching: Recognizing the profound connection between the two.
  3. Optimal vs. Suboptimal Self-Teaching: Wanting to do something vs forcing yourself to do it.
  4. Introducing The "Why, What, How" Technique: A practical framework for understanding behaviour and delivering lessons.
  5. Parenting as a Framework For Conflict Resolution: Learning to respond to the world in the same way you do to your child.


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