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Jun 5
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302. Why we glow up after a breakup

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Ever wondered why everyone seems to break up just before 28? Or why your friend who was just about to settle down with her boyfriend of 7 years is suddenly single and wanting to go out clubbing again? Or why you suddenly realised your long term relationship wasn't for you, and found yourself in Europe or on 4 dates in a row the next week? It's because of post long-term relationship puberty: a term that describes the rapid personality change that takes place in people who have been in a relationship for most of their 20s, but suddenly find themselves single in their late 20s, ready to make up for lost time. In today's episode we describe the end of long-term relationships in our 20s, including: 

  • The 7 year itch
  • Why we suddenly realise someone isn't right for us 
  • The growth that happens after a breakup
  • Why people settle in their 20s
  • The pros and cons of single life vs. dating life 
  • How to not go back to your ex 
  • How to embrace your single era 

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