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Mar 2025
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Best Dating Advice For People In Their 3...

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About this episode

Do you ever feel "behind" in dating?

Do you value compatibility over chemistry?

Dating in your 30s is a completely new experience—one that comes with unique challenges, fresh perspectives, and a deeper sense of self-awareness. Today, Jay unpacks the most common misconceptions about dating at this stage in life and shares empowering insights on how to navigate relationships with confidence and clarity. He begins by tackling the biggest myth that holds so many people back—the belief that they’re “too late” or “falling behind” in their search for love.

Jay also explores the key differences between dating in your 20s versus your 30s. While your 20s are a period of self-discovery—figuring out deal-breakers, learning from mistakes, and often getting caught up in dating games—your 30s bring a new level of clarity and intention. No more ignoring red flags, no more prioritizing chemistry over compatibility, and no more settling for less than you deserve. Emotional maturity becomes the foundation of lasting relationships, and by your 30s, you’ve developed the wisdom and confidence to approach love in a way that truly aligns with your values.

In this episode, you'll learn:

How to Overcome the Fear of Being "Too Late" in Dating

How to Stop Settling and Start Prioritizing What You Deserve

How to Stop Playing Dating Games and Be Direct About What You Want

How to Choose Peace Over Drama in Relationships

How to Approach Dating in Your 30s with Confidence and Clarity

No matter where you are on your dating journey, remember that you are not behind—you are exactly where you need to be. Your 30s are not a deadline; they are an opportunity to date with clarity, confidence, and purpose.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

01:00 The Biggest Dating Myth

02:55 Why Your 30s Are Powerful

03:27 Society’s False Timelines

05:00 Emotional Maturity in Relationships

06:11 Lessons from Dating in Your 20s

08:41 No More Dating Games

10:27 Trusting Your Gut & Red Flags

14:47 Compatibility vs. Chemistry

15:20 Choosing Peace Over Drama

16:58 The Pain of Settling vs. Being Single

19:38 Healing After Breakups

22:22 Dating with Confidence in Your 30s

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