What makes us feel secure, safe and supported in our relationships with partners, friends and family? Ximena Arriaga, PhD, talks about how early and ongoing life experiences shape our bonds with others, why our “attachment style” isn’t fixed but can always change, and how partners can help each other thrive in their close relationships.
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Feb 4
The invisible work of being a daughter, with Allison Alford, PhD
For many women, being a daughter is not just a family role – it’s a lifelong job. Dr. Allison Alford discusses what she calls “daughtering”: the work of managing family dynamics, from coordinating schedules to soothing emotions to worrying about a parent’s future. She discusses w ... Show More
39m 12s
Jan 28
When your “mind’s eye” is blank: Understanding aphantasia, with Joel Pearson, PhD
People with aphantasia can’t visualize images in their mind’s eye. Ask them to picture an apple and they see a blank screen. Aphantasia researcher Joel Pearson, PhD, discusses how scientists are developing new methods to measure aphantasia beyond self-reports; how aphantasia may ... Show More
40m 11s
Jan 21
Inside the social minds -- and amazing memories -- of chimps and bonobos, with Laura Simone Lewis, PhD
Most of us could look at a decades-old yearbook and recognize many of the faces of our former classmates -- but humans aren't the only ones with this remarkable ability. Laura Simone Lewis, PhD, of the University of California, Santa Barbara, discusses her research on the long-te ... Show More
39m 36s
Oct 2023
Owning Dynamics: Relationship Reality Check Pt8
In the finale of "Relationship Reality Check," Dr. Phil drives home a crucial point: friendship is the bedrock of any strong relationship. Be the friend you wish to have – it's about change, vulnerability, and boosting your partner's self-worth. Creating a harmonious home starts ... Show More
42m 22s
Aug 2023
How Not To Settle In A Relationship Pt1
We often get back what we give in our connections with others, whether it is a friend, co-worker, lover, or spouse. Dr. Phil talks about this idea and emphasizes the importance of taking responsibility for the quality of our relationships by being a "life manager." He also highli ... Show More
50m 10s
Aug 2025
#202: How Attachment Styles Influence Friendship Dynamics
We don’t often talk about how attachment dynamics play out in friendships — but if you’ve ever felt anxious, hurt, or overly invested in a friend who seemed to be pulling away, you’ll know just how triggering these relationships can be.While attachment theory was originally devel ... Show More
21m 50s
Feb 2025
Using Heart-Based Connection in Building Healthy Relationships with Dr. Thema Bryant
<p>In this enlightening conversation, Kimberly interviews<strong> Dr. Tamah Bryant</strong>, a renowned psychologist and author, about her new book 'Matters of the Heart.' They explore the significance of emotional connections, the journey of healing from trauma, and the importa ... Show More
53m 7s
Sep 2025
What Does Relationship Compatibility Really Mean?
In this episode of Let’s Talk Attachments, we dive into what compatibility in relationships really means—and why it matters so much more than chemistry alone. I’ll break down how to recognize true alignment in core values, lifestyle choices, emotional needs, and long-term goals, ... Show More
29m 10s
Jul 2025
#197: What Avoidant People Need to Thrive in a Relationship
<p>In today’s episode, we’re exploring what avoidant attached people actually need to feel safe and secure in a relationship — and how partners can support that without self-abandoning.</p><p>Avoidant attachment is often misunderstood — labelled as cold, distant, or commitment-ph ... Show More
21m 38s