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Jun 2025
35m 37s

Attachment bonds: Understanding our clos...

AMERICAN PSYCHOLOGICAL ASSOCIATION
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What makes us feel secure, safe and supported in our relationships with partners, friends and family? Ximena Arriaga, PhD, talks about how early and ongoing life experiences shape our bonds with others, why our “attachment style” isn’t fixed but can always change, and how partners can help each other thrive in their close relationships. Learn more about your ... Show More
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