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May 2025
30m 44s

The Myth of the Mini-Me

DR. BECKY KENNEDY
About this episode

"My kid is nothing like me."

It’s a thought many parents have—but rarely say out loud. We all carry quiet expectations that our kids will reflect us in some way: our values, our temperament, maybe even our path.

So what happens when they don’t?

Dr. Becky sits down with Dr. Andrew Solomon, author of Far from the Tree, to explore what it brings up for us when our kids are different from us—and how acceptance and curiosity can help us grow while deepening our connection with them.

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