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May 19
55m 44s

#454 Should You Stay or Go? How To Know ...

DR. LISA MARIE BOBBY
About this episode

There are few questions more terrifying, more soul-shaking, or more likely to keep you awake at 3 a.m. than this one: How to know when your marriage is over? I mean… whew. Just saying that out loud makes my stomach flip.

As a licensed marriage and family therapist, I’ve walked this path with many people, and in this episode of the Love, Happiness & Success podcast, I’ll help you walk through it too—with clarity, compassion, and courage.

Today we’re unpacking the hidden signs, hard truths, and hopeful possibilities around one of life’s biggest crossroads. We’ll talk about the difference between a rough patch and a dead end, what to do if your partner won’t engage, and how to get the real support you need to move forward confidently—whether that means healing your relationship or letting it go.

Timestamps:

00:00 – Is It Over? The Emotional Toll of Not Knowing
02:47 – When Your Relationship Lives in the Gray Zone
10:40 – Why "Couples Counseling" Often Doesn’t Work—and What Does
31:02 – What Is Discernment Coaching, and How Can It Help?
49:41 – Free Resources + Your Next Right Step

I’ve put together a free resource that might help you take the next step: my How Healthy Is Your Relationship? Quiz. It’s a quick and insightful tool that can help you see where things are strong, where they’re struggling, and what might be possible. You’ll also get a custom report with suggestions you can actually use. You can find the quiz right here on my website.

If you're ready to talk to someone about your relationship — whether you're hoping to repair it or just looking for clarity — my team and I are here. You can book a free consultation call and we’ll help you find the right next step, whether that’s discernment coaching, relationship therapy, or support just for you.

And hey — I’d love to stay connected. You can find me on Instagram and YouTube where I’m always sharing tips, tools, and a little bit of love to help you create the life and relationships you deserve.

Xoxo

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

www.growingself.com

P.S. Know someone who’s going through this exact same thing? Maybe they’re stuck in the gray zone too, or quietly suffering through something they haven’t told anyone about. Please send this their way. You never know — sharing this episode might be the first step toward their healing.

 

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