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May 2025
17m 43s

It’s Time to Stop Calling Suffering Love

Pearlieee
About this episode

You were taught to equate love with pain. With disappearing. With giving until there’s nothing left. But what if that wasn’t love? What if it was survival—masquerading as devotion?

In this episode, we break down the lies you’ve been sold about love, from loyalty that punishes to selflessness that erases you. You’ll learn to recognize the difference between love that heals and love that harms—and how to return to yourself without guilt.

If you’ve ever called your own erasure love, this one’s for you.

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