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May 2025
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296. 5 steps to becoming an assertive co...

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Being an assertive communicator is so much more than just being demanding or confident, it comes down to our emotional ease, how we hold ourselves, how we make others feel, how we frame even the smallest of questions. It's also not something that is taught to us and if it doesn't come naturally, we have to learn on our own. In this episode I break down the FIVE scientifically proven ways to be a more assertive communicator, including: 

  1. The power of the pause
  2. How assertive communicators use their body 
  3. Self authoring language 
  4. Visualisation! Visualisation! Visualisation! 
  5. How to leverage the Dunning-Kruger Effect 

Plus 7 rapid fire tips you may or may not know! Happy (assertive) listening! 

 

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