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Aug 26
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Say What You Mean: How to Become a More ...

Career Contessa
About this episode

Struggle with saying “no” at work? You’re not alone. In this episode, career coach and talent acquisition manager Adeline Callanan joins us to break down what assertive communication really looks like—and how to build the skill without sounding aggressive.

You’ll learn:

✅ How to speak up without being seen as “difficult”

✅ Simple language shifts that boost your confidence

✅ Nonverbal cues that support (or sabotage) your message


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