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May 21
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Stanford Psychologist: The #1 Psychologi...

Lewis Howes
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What if the key to deeper connections isn't in what you say, but in how you listen? Dr. Caroline Fleck, licensed psychologist and Stanford instructor, reveals the transformative power of validation - a skillset that revolutionized psychology yet remains largely unknown outside clinical settings. Her journey through depression and breast cancer gives her unique insight into why feeling truly seen matters more than love itself. She breaks down the surprising science behind techniques like "copying" that can increase trust by 25% and even overcome implicit bias. This conversation unveils a step-by-step framework that anyone can use to create authentic connection, navigate difficult emotions, and transform relationships - whether you're dealing with a suicidal patient or simply trying to understand your partner better.

Buy Dr. Fleck’s book Validation: How the Skill Set That Revolutionized Psychology Will Transform Your Relationships, Increase Your Influence, and Change Your Life

In this episode you will learn:

  • Why validation is the foundation of all human connection and may be even more important than love itself
  • The "validation ladder" – an 8-step process therapists use to make others feel truly seen and heard
  • How mimicking someone's body language activates mirror neurons that help you genuinely understand their emotions
  • The counterintuitive way to handle your difficult emotions – feeling them fully without the narrative
  • A step-by-step process for self-validation that can transform shame into peace in minutes

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